“Taking time for self-reflection about life leads to greater self-awareness which in turn leads to self-improvement. In addition, having a strong sense of self improves your confidence and level of self-esteem.” – Tracy Kennedy
As we come to the end of this very unusual year, it’s important to take some time to reflect on how far you’ve come. In the midst of great challenges, there are ways you have risen to meet them, grown because of them, and accomplished new ways of thinking/being/giving/receiving. But unless you take the time to reflect, they may simply pass you by.
Here are a few questions to ask yourself:
- What am I doing differently that brings me and others more happiness or relaxation?
- What is a positive change I have made?
- What have I learned more about?
- What do I feel more confident about?
- What was a huge challenge that I faced?
- Where in my life have I become more resilient?
- What is something I love about myself?
With those or other questions in mind, here are some simple practices to guide you.
A contemplation practice:
Imagine you are standing at the edge of a path. What is the path made of? Stones, grass, pavement, etc…Imagine what it feels like as you take a step onto this path. Slowly begin to walk down this path, a path that will take you back in time, towards the very beginning of 2020. As you mindfully notice each step, what is the air like around you? What do you see alongside the path? Trees? Open space? Walls of a cave? Let yourself soak in the atmosphere and get grounded in your surroundings.
As you get comfortable on this path, start to notice the markers around you. Maybe they are trees, maybe words, maybe images. Each time you see a sign pause. These signs are all the ways you have grown. Maybe you became more comfortable with yourself in quarantine. Maybe you started a healthy practice like therapy, eating more fresh food, a mindfulness or movement practice. Pause, take it in, let yourself feel the warmth of having made a positive change. Take a few more steps and recognize the next sign, the next marker of your growth. Maybe it’s a new relationship, maybe you let go of an unhealthy one, maybe you got a pet, or plant. Each time you recognize a way you have taken care of yourself or opened your mind to something new, pause. Take it in. Let yourself feel how far you’ve come.
Keep doing this until you reach the end of the path. You will know you are there because you will meet yourself. The self you have grown into over the past year. Take this person in with appreciation, gratitude, maybe even awe! And let yourself dissolve until you are one, whole, being. Congratulations, you are home.
Bring yourself to the end of 2019- what were your most pressing challenges, concerns, or hardships? How do you feel about them now? What have you learned, what’s changed? What do you notice about how you felt about yourself or life a year ago, compared to now? What kind of support would you like to call in for the next year, to help you continue on your path of growth and transformation? Or use any of the questions above.
Write a letter to yourself:
If you could go back in time, what would you say to your past self? What have you learned that would share to help make your life easier? Make sure to tell your past self about some of the triumphs of growth and change, and let them know how great you are, how much you grow, how resilient you are, etc…
As we say good-bye to the most bizarre year of most of our lives and step into 2021, make sure you take the time to see just how far you’ve come.
Feeling anxiety, stress, numbness or overwhelm are all normal at this time, you are definitely not alone! If you would like additional support, please reach out to us. We are here, and happy to stay connected with you. At the Strength in Motion wellness community, we believe in a mind-body-soul approach towards finding and sustaining balance. We feel honored to be on your path in some way and are here to support you in living to your greatest potential. Click here to find out more information about who we are and how we may be a support to you. We are offering telehealth during this time and free consultations as always. We are here to support you.
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